If your church isn’t doing this - it's missing the mark
What should my church be doing about porn addiction?
Run ongoing groups year-round instead of treating porn as a one-time topic. Soul Refiner offers four: the Conquer Series as the starting point for men, Warpath for continued accountability and deeper healing, From The Ashes for wives, and Understanding His Brain on Porn. Recovery from sexual addiction takes two to five years, so five-week programs are not enough. Men fall when they isolate and rise when they lock arms in Christ-centered brotherhood.
Pornography and sexual addiction are not fringe issues. They are front-line spiritual battles raging in the hearts of men - and the pain doesn't stop with them. Wives are devastated. Families are collapsing. Churches are weakened.
Every church can change this. Start a Conquer Group at your church and give men a place to bring this into the light.
If we’re serious about discipling men, healing marriages, and raising up families that reflect the heart of Christ, we must do better. There must be on-going help year round to address these issues and help men and women heal.
We can help with that.
Our cinematic, biblical and science based series offer four essential, life-changing groups for your church:
The Conquer Series
Warpath
From The Ashes
Understanding His Brain on Porn
And they shouldn’t just be occasional. They should be running all the time.
Here’s why:
1. Every Church Needs Conquer and Warpath Running Year-Round
Conquer Series: The Front Line
The Conquer Series is the starting point for men to face the truth about their bondage to pornography and sexual sin. It’s cinematic, biblical, and deeply convicting. This isn’t about behavior modification. It’s about spiritual warfare, brain science, and building a foundation for lasting freedom.
But freedom doesn’t happen in five weeks. And this isn’t a “one-and-done” program. Recovery from sexual addiction (true transformation) takes 2-5 years.
Men fall because they isolate. Men rise when they lock arms in consistent, Christ-centered brotherhood.
Watch the Conquer Series Trailer
Warpath: The Fight Continues
Warpath is what comes next - it’s the path of continued accountability, intentional growth, and deeper healing. Without it, men return to old habits. With it, men grow stronger, wiser, and more rooted in Christ.
Running these groups year-round does 3 powerful things:
- Keeps men accountable long-term
- Leaves the door open for new men who need help right now
- Cultivates a culture of honesty, purity, and brotherhood in your church
This is not just about helping men break free - it’s about helping men stay free and grow into the leaders, husbands, and fathers God designed them to be.
Watch the Warpath Trailer
2. Every Church Must Support Betrayed Women with From The Ashes
While men are battling for purity, there’s another wounded warrior quietly sitting in your pews: his wife. She’s devastated. Confused. Angry. And often forgotten.
Churches frequently rally around the man’s recovery, but the woman - who’s been betrayed, traumatized, and left emotionally shattered - is left to figure it out on her own. That’s not just neglect. That’s spiritual malpractice. Often the reason is simply because churches have not had the tools or knowledge on how to address the issues. Until now.
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From The Ashes: A Lifeline for Betrayed Wives
From The Ashes is a powerful, Christ-centered program created specifically for women whose lives have been wrecked by their husband’s sexual betrayal. It offers truth, understanding, community, and a pathway to real healing.
These women are not just hurting - they are key to the survival of the family. Without support, many will give up or be left emotionally disabled, even if they choose to stay.
Running From The Ashes year-round means:
- Women never have to suffer in silence
- There’s always a seat ready for the next hurting wife
- Marriages have a real shot at recovery - because both hearts are healing
Understanding His Brain on Porn: An essential tool for betrayed wives
This is a companion series where wives watch the Conquer Series while working through a study guide and journal tailored for their healing. It helps them understand the brain science behind addiction, the source of his addiction, understanding his healing is possible, what to expect and how to gauge if he is doing the work. This is an essential tool to help them heal from the trauma of betrayal.
Watch the From The Ashes Trailer
Understanding His Brain on Porn: Clarity, truth, a pathway to healing for betrayed wives
We highly recommend every betrayed wife go through the Conquer Series companion series - Understanding His Brain on Porn. We've created an easy to follow study guide for women to go through the Conquer Series so they can clearly understand the nature of the addiction, release the burden of blaming themselves, recognize that healing for him and her is possible, and learn what steps he must take to get free. Every woman needs this!
Learn more about Understanding His Brain on Porn
3. This Is Discipleship. This Is Church.
If the Church is serious about being the hands and feet of Jesus…
If we truly want to fight for families…
If we believe in calling men to holiness and women to healing…
Then these groups can’t be a “seasonal ministry.”
They must be a permanent presence.
Not just to respond to sin -
But to raise up men of purity, women of strength, and families restored by grace.
This is about creating a culture of transformation, not just offering a class. If you want church growth, offer continual help and care for the number one issue that is destroying the body of Christ - porn addiction.
You Don’t Have to Build It Alone. We’ve Created the Resources.
These are battle-tested tools for the real war happening in our churches, homes, and hearts.
All you have to do is open the doors - and keep them open.
We’ve provided both the resources and the training. You’ll have access to leader training videos, books, journals, and our free customer support network - so you’re never alone as you lead your group.
Let Your Church Be a House of Freedom
Not just once a year. Not just when the pain is visible.
All the time.
For every man.
For every woman.
For every family that walks through your doors, searching for hope.
It’s time to stop reacting to sexual brokenness like it’s rare. It’s not rare. But healing doesn’t have to be either. Let your church be the place where it’s not only safe to confess - but the place they can overcome and be redeemed.
We can help you launch groups today!
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Writing at the intersection of faith and neuroscience to help men and women break destructive cycles and walk in lasting freedom.
More articles by Jeremy Wiles →Frequently Asked Questions
How do I start a Conquer Group at my church?
You do not have to build it alone. The resources and the training already exist, including leader training videos, books, journals, and a free customer support network, so you are never leading without backup. The Conquer Series is the starting point for men, and Soul Refiner can help you launch groups. All you really have to do is open the doors and then keep them open.
How long does recovery from sexual addiction take?
True transformation takes two to five years, not five weeks. That is why one-off programs and annual sermon series fall short: they treat a long war like a short campaign. Men fall because they isolate, and they rise when they lock arms in consistent, Christ-centered brotherhood. Running groups continuously keeps men accountable long-term and leaves the door open for the man who needs help right now.
How should a church support the wives of men addicted to porn?
Give her a path of her own instead of only rallying around his recovery. From The Ashes is a Christ-centered program created for women whose lives have been wrecked by their husband's sexual betrayal, offering truth, understanding, community, and real healing. Understanding His Brain on Porn is a companion study that helps her grasp the brain science, release self-blame, and see what steps he must take to get free.
What is Warpath?
Warpath is what comes after the Conquer Series. It is the path of continued accountability, intentional growth, and deeper healing for men who have begun to find freedom. Without it, men tend to drift back into old habits. With it, they grow stronger, wiser, and more rooted in Christ. Running Conquer and Warpath year-round is how a church helps men stay free instead of only getting free once.
Why aren't short-term porn programs enough?
Because freedom does not happen in five weeks, and this is not a one-and-done issue. A seasonal class reacts to sin, while a permanent presence builds a culture of honesty, purity, and brotherhood. Continuous groups keep men accountable for the long haul, leave a seat ready for the next hurting wife, and give marriages a real shot because both hearts are healing at the same time.
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