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A KingdomWorks Studios Documentary A True Story

Deadly Betrayal

The Affair That Ended in Murder

The Story

She thought she knew
the man she married

Kristina Douberly had been married to Lamar for eighteen years. She knew his voice, his habits, the sound of his truck in the driveway. What she did not know was that from the very beginning, he had been living a second life.

It started with pornography, hidden. Over the years it grew into emotional affairs, then sexual ones — woven quietly through the whole of their marriage while he sat beside her in church.

Then came the night that put their family on the evening news.

Lamar was with his affair partner when her husband found out. He came with a gun. Lamar escaped the shots. The two women in that house — his affair partner and her best friend — did not. Both were murdered.

Eight months later, when Kristina finally confronted him, the truth came out all at once: he had been unfaithful their entire marriage. The lid came off a box of lies eighteen years deep.

She sat in a church basement on a Thursday night among strangers, numb, certain she should be home tucking her sons into bed instead. She was not sure her marriage would survive the week. She was not sure she wanted it to.

“I must be the biggest idiot in the world — because he kept this from me for eighteen years.” Kristina Douberly
Kristina Douberly, interviewed in her kitchen
In her own words Kristina Douberly

The Betrayed Spouse

The woman everyone
forgot to ask about

When a story like this breaks, the headlines follow the crime. Almost no one asks about the woman left standing in the wreckage — the one who has to explain it to her children, face her church, and decide what to do with a marriage she no longer recognizes.

Kristina tells it herself: the disbelief, the disclosure, the night she was ready to walk, and the small, barely audible voice that told her the story wasn't finished.

“God's not done with you.” Dr. Ted Roberts — the words that changed everything
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Why We Made This Film

Betrayal doesn't stay
behind closed doors

  1. A screen reading: Who are you?
  2. Secrets
    Grow Teeth

    What begins hidden rarely stays small. This is the honest, non-graphic account of where a secret is capable of going — and why silence was never a strategy.

  3. Betrayal
    Trauma Is Real

    The shaking. The sleeplessness. Replaying every memory looking for what you missed. That is not weakness and it is not overreacting. It is trauma, and it deserves real care.

  4. Ashes
    Aren't the End

    Healing is not a weekend fix — it's a road measured in years. But it is a road, and women are walking it right now. No one should have to walk it alone.

For Betrayed Wives

From the Ashes

Eight episodes and a community of women who have stood in the ruins themselves — and found that God was not finished there.

You didn't choose this fire. You don't get to un-know what you now know. But you do get to choose what you do with the ground you're standing on — and you do not have to sort through it by yourself.

Tiana leading a From the Ashes session with a small group of women
Tiana — From the Ashes

What You'll Walk Through

  1. 01
    Name what happened to you.

    Understand betrayal trauma — why your body and mind are reacting this way, and why it is not weakness.

  2. 02
    Understand his battle — without carrying it.

    What sexual sin does to a man's brain, what genuine recovery requires, and why his healing was never your job.

  3. 03
    Set boundaries that protect your heart.

    Without closing it — including what honest, full disclosure should look like.

  4. 04
    Rebuild your identity in Christ.

    Separate from his choices, his timeline, and whatever he decides to do next.

  5. 05
    Heal in community.

    You were wounded in relationship; you will heal in relationship — with a circle of sisters who already understand.

Whether you stay or you go, whether he is in recovery or nowhere near it — your healing is yours, and it starts here.

“Our mess became God's message and we are honored
to share our story that now belongs to Him.”
Kristina Douberly

Questions Women Ask Us

Help for
betrayal trauma

What is betrayal trauma?

Betrayal trauma is what happens to your mind and body when the person you trusted most turns out to be the source of the danger. It is not ordinary heartbreak. It shows up as intrusive images you never asked for, sleep that will not come, hypervigilance, and replaying years of memories hunting for what you missed. It has a name because it is real, and it responds to real care.

Is what I'm feeling normal, or am I overreacting?

You are not overreacting, and nothing is wrong with you. The shaking, the obsessive checking, the swing between rage and numbness inside the same hour — those are trauma responses, not character flaws. Naming what happened to you is the first thing that starts to loosen its grip.

Should I stay after infidelity?

No one can answer that for you, and anyone who answers it quickly is not being honest with you. What you can do first is get your own footing back, so that whatever you decide, you decide it from clarity instead of from the fog. From the Ashes is built for you either way — whether you stay, whether you go, whether he is in recovery or nowhere near it.

Can a marriage survive sexual addiction?

Some do. Some do not. What is true in every case is that recovery is measured in years rather than weekends, and that it requires real work from him rather than more promises. Contrary to popular belief, marriage does not cure porn addiction — and his healing was never your job to carry.

How do I start healing from betrayal?

Start by naming what happened to you, and then refuse to carry it alone. You were wounded in relationship, and you will heal in relationship — alongside women who already understand the ground you are standing on. That is what From the Ashes was built to give you: eight episodes and a community, at whatever pace you can manage.

Is the documentary really free to watch?

Yes. Press play anywhere on this page and the full film opens. There is no sign-up, no email required, and nothing to buy first.

Your Story Is Still Unfolding

God's Not Done With You Yet, Sister

Now take the next step with women who know exactly where you're standing.

8 episodes  •  A community of women walking it with you

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From the Ashes 8 episodes • A community for women healing from betrayal
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