How To Prepare Your Kids For A Porn Saturated World
How do I prepare my kids for a world full of porn?
Assume they will encounter it and talk first. Parental controls get bypassed, as one couple learned when their 14-year-old found a way around the filters on his phone. Ninety percent of children ages 8 to 16 have seen online pornography, and ages 12 to 17 are the largest group of consumers. Bring it into the open at home, and deal with your own struggle too.
Brianna and Cole (names have been changed) first became suspicious when their 14-year-old son Charlie was up late at night in a dark bedroom with his iPhone screen, still shining brightly.
“I was going to tell him to knock it off,” said Cole. “It was time for bed.”
Instead, he discovered his son’s porn use.
Not only had Charlie found a way around the parental controls installed on his phone, the pages he’d accessed “were revolting,” recalls his mother Brianna.
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Added Cole: “It was bad enough when we grew up sneaking our father’s Playboy magazines out of the house. What Charlie was looking at, there is no comparison.”
Generational
It’s not just teenagers that have this problem. Many fathers and grandfathers also face this.
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In fact, many of them have walked through the Conquer Series, a cinematic series that helps men overcome porn addiction, together.
“This series has helped change my life. The healing it has caused has revolutionized my relationship with my wife, kids, and people at church.”-Matthew Cook
One young boy with Asperger’s Syndrome was exposed to porn when his mother’s boyfriend used to watch it while the young boy was in the room. It wasn’t until the boy moved in with his grandparents at age 15 that the grandparents realized the extent of his porn addiction.
“Now I lead a Conquer Series group with him in it,” shared the grandfather, “and he has learned how to overcome this and wants to eventually lead a group alone or with me.”
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Why Is Porn Bad
Porn’s tentacles are everywhere, and it’s hitting men, women, and families of all ages and stages, all around the globe. Check out these alarming statistics:
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- 90% of children ages 8 to 16 have seen online pornography
- Children ages 12 to 17 are the largest group of Internet porn consumers
- 74% of adult men say they use porn at least once a month
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Unfortunately, developing a porn habit can lead to significant problems in later life, such as intimacy issues with a future spouse, divorce, lost productivity, lost employment, affairs, acting out sexually and so much more.
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Renewing The Mind
In breaking the porn habit, as Dr. Ted Roberts, former pastor, Marine Fighter Pilot and host of the Conquer Series says, “Trying harder doesn’t work.” It’s about a complete renewal of the mind, and the Conquer Series was created to do just that.
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A 10-week course, the Conquer Series is packed with nearly seven hours of powerful teaching told through cinematic parables and offers Bible-based strategies to conquer porn. Host Dr. Ted Roberts has a 90% success rate in helping thousands of men break free from porn.
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The Conquer Series has been used by millions of people in over 100 countries all over the world to overcome porn addiction.
“Thank you guys for making this program. My teenage sons have watched it and we have all learned so much!”– Sandra Barnes
We owe it to ourselves and to our future generations to break the hold of porn so that on those afflicted so that they can walk in freedom.
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“I absolutely love this video series! This is how good it is: our 19 and 17 yr. old sons exist in their phones-texting, listening to music. Not 15 minutes in, we saw them put down their phones, take the earbuds out of their ears and watch intensely. Each time we played a video, the phones went down and they watched and took in all what was being said… EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT series!”– Tammy Miller
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Writing at the intersection of faith and neuroscience to help men and women break destructive cycles and walk in lasting freedom.
More articles by Jeremy Wiles →Frequently Asked Questions
How many adult men look at porn?
Around 74 percent of adult men say they use porn at least once a month. Children aged twelve to seventeen are the largest single group of internet porn consumers. Put those two facts together and you see the shape of the problem: this is not a teenage phase that gets outgrown, it is a habit that follows men into adulthood, marriage and fatherhood.
What problems does a porn habit cause later in life?
The damage shows up years after the habit starts. Common consequences include intimacy problems with a future spouse, divorce, lost productivity, lost employment, affairs, and acting out sexually in other ways. A teenager rarely connects tonight’s clicking with any of that, which is exactly why a parent has to say it out loud early and without panic.
Is porn a generational problem in families?
Very often, yes. It is not only teenagers; fathers and grandfathers are fighting the same battle, and exposure sometimes comes straight from an adult in the home. The encouraging side is that generations can break it together. One grandfather, whose grandson came to live with him at fifteen, shared, "Now I lead a Conquer Series group with him in it, and he has learned how to overcome this and wants to eventually lead a group alone or with me."
Why doesn’t telling my kid to try harder work?
Because trying harder does not work, for a teenager any more than for a grown man. As Dr. Ted Roberts, former pastor, Marine Fighter Pilot and host of the Conquer Series, says, "Trying harder doesn't work." What breaks the hold is a complete renewal of the mind, not a tighter set of rules layered on top of shame. Understanding what porn is doing to them gives them a reason to fight for themselves.
What is the Conquer Series?
The Conquer Series is a ten-week course packed with nearly seven hours of teaching, told through cinematic parables and built on Bible-based strategies for conquering porn. It has been used by millions of people in more than one hundred countries. Families watch it together, and Tammy Miller writes of her teenage sons, "Not 15 minutes in, we saw them put down their phones, take the earbuds out of their ears and watch intensely."
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