Not Just Another New Year’s Resolution
Why can't I just resolve to quit porn this year?
Because freedom is a process of renewing your mind, not a resolution you make and then wait on God to enforce. Many men pray, expect the problem to be lifted, and blame God when it is not. Porn use is not really about sex, it is about how you learned to medicate pain. Truth and knowledge set men free, because as Hosea 4:6 says, people perish for lack of knowledge.
What do you think is the biggest problem among Christian men today? It’s a problem in the Church that everyone knows, but no one dares talk about.
It’s amazing how close our production team has gotten since we started work on the Conquer Series. A subject none of us ever thought we’d muster the courage to mention amongst ourselves, let alone share with transparency, is now a topic we’ve become so familiar with, it’s scary.
If this is finally the year, the Conquer Series was built for exactly this resolution.
But I guess this is what happens when you shed truth to something as ugly and shameful as porn.
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Shocking Statistics
- 68% of men
- 25-30% of women
- 50-58% of pastors
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Because sexual sin has such contemptible connotations amongst Christians, few dare to examine it for what it really is. It’s like a disease that no one wants to get close to, but denying the existence of an epidemic doesn’t stop it from spreading. Hosea 4:6 says: “My people perish for lack of knowledge…”
As we’ve come to understand what sexual sin is and Christ’s redemptive power on the Cross, as well as the scientific facts that corroborate God’s Word, we’ve realized that this knowledge – this truth – has the power to set** **men free, where they no longer have to live each day with shame and guilt.
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Eric Hovind
A close friend who has experienced this first hand is Eric Hovind. His father, Kent Hovind, is a world-renowned Creationist public speaker. Eric is the president of Creation Today and has debated some of the nation’s fiercest defenders of Evolution.
The first time Eric was exposed to porn was at age 5 – at a Christian school. He was brave enough to share his testimony on how God freed him from his struggle with porn.
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Many men want to be freed from porn, but they expect God or someone else to do the hard work. They pray and then blame God for not removing the problem. There is a process of renewing their minds in Christ before seeing the results of complete restoration.
Viewing porn is not about sex, it is about how men have learned to medicate the pain in their lives.
Taking Action
Pastors can become effective heart surgeons when they understand these principles. Unfortunately many men who struggle with sexual sin, and dare admit it to their pastor, have to go along with the typical Church response: “We’ll pray for you.”
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The next time he tells his leader that he viewed porn again the pastor says: “Well, stop it because we’re praying for you!” Where does that get you? Nowhere. God can miraculously heal men instantly, but typically it is a 2-5 year process of renewing the mind and becoming a new creation in Christ.
There is no question that a man who struggles with pornography needs to pray and enlist God’s power, but it shouldn’t stop there. There are practical steps to take, adjustments that can be life-changing, but it all begins with knowing what sexual bondage is and God’s weapons and strategies for His children.
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Discipleship Curriculum
My goal is to empower pastors with this discipleship tool.
I know it’s not an easy or comfortable topic to talk about. This is why I have put everything on hold to produce the Conquer Series. Christian men struggling with sexual sin in the Church is a subject too important to ignore. Once men know the truth about hell’s master plan, they will find boldness in talking about it.
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If what you think I shared with you is of value to the Church, but no one likes to talk about it, then please be the voice. Share the Conquer Series with your Pastor, Men’s ministry leader or friend. The Conquer Series is the easiest and most effective way to present this sensitive topic to your church.
Get started at SoulRefiner.com.
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Blessings, Jeremy
Writing at the intersection of faith and neuroscience to help men and women break destructive cycles and walk in lasting freedom.
More articles by Jeremy Wiles →Frequently Asked Questions
How many Christian men struggle with porn?
The numbers behind this are hard to look at: roughly 68 percent of men, 25 to 30 percent of women, and 50 to 58 percent of pastors. Sexual sin carries such contemptible connotations among Christians that few dare examine it honestly, so it gets treated like a disease nobody wants to stand near. But denying the existence of an epidemic has never once stopped it from spreading.
How long does it take to break free from porn?
God can miraculously heal a man instantly, and sometimes He does. Far more often it is a two to five year process of renewing the mind and becoming a new creation in Christ. That timeline is not bad news. It means freedom is real and reachable, and it means you are not failing when it takes longer than a season. Praying matters, and practical steps have to follow it.
Why isn't "we'll pray for you" enough when a man confesses porn?
Because prayer without a plan leaves a man exactly where he started. A man works up the courage to tell his leader and hears the typical Church response: "We'll pray for you." He comes back later having fallen again and the pastor says, "Well, stop it because we're praying for you!" Where does that get you? Nowhere. He needs to enlist God's power and be taught what sexual bondage actually is and how God's weapons work.
How can a pastor help men who are struggling with porn?
Pastors become remarkably effective heart surgeons once they understand these principles. The gap is almost never compassion; it is a discipleship tool built for this exact subject. The Conquer Series was produced to put one in a pastor's hands, because Christian men struggling with sexual sin is a subject too important for the Church to keep ignoring. Once men know the truth, they find boldness to talk about it.
Why do so few Christians talk openly about sexual sin?
Shame keeps the subject sealed. It is the problem in the Church that everyone knows about and no one dares raise, so it stays hidden and keeps spreading. Hosea 4:6 says, "My people perish for lack of knowledge..." Yet once truth is shed on something as ugly and shameful as porn, the grip loosens fast. Knowing what sexual sin really is, alongside Christ's redemptive power on the Cross, is what sets men free from daily shame and guilt.
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