The Perfect Gift For This Mother's Day
What is the best Mother's Day gift for my wife?
Your freedom. One wife writes that the greatest gift she ever received was her husband deciding to fight his porn struggle and refusing to hand it down to their children. No purchase compares to a home where the kids know they can count on both parents. When your children someday encounter porn, a dad who has fought this can step in and walk them out.
In case you’ve had your head buried in the sand and missed the memo, it’s Mother’s Day weekend. A few days ago, we had a discussion in the office about how everyone was going to celebrate Mother’s Day.
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The responses varied from dinners, to mailing gifts home, to phone calls. As a mother myself, part of me drifted off in curiosity of what my husband and kids would have up their sleeve for this weekend. Men, if you want to know the perfect gift that you can give to your wife–the mother of your children–read on.
Another gift worth considering: helping the man in her life learn how to quit porn for good.
The Best Gift
The best gift I was ever given could not compare to any materialistic thing that could be purchased. For me, happiness is having a home full of love and laughter, and it comes in the form of having three amazing kids who know that they can count on me and my husband at all times. That gift was my husband choosing to take a stand, reclaiming himself from the grips of the enemy, and his struggle with porn that waged war against our home.
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When my husband stood up to fight, he was fighting for something greater than himself. He was standing up for himself, our marriage and our family. He was proclaiming that the struggle, handed down for generations, would stop dead in its tracks and would have no authority over our children.
Will my kids encounter porn? According to statistics, the answer is yes. That is when their dad will love them enough to step in, share his story, and guide them by the hand onward to victory. I believe with every part of my being, that my kids will not stay in that place of darkness.
Because of my husband’s self-less determination, our family will now have overflowing joy–not just on the holidays but everyday– and the legacy that he will someday leave behind will bless all of the generations to come.
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“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”-3 John 1:4
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Being blessed with the opportunity to talk to people every day in my role here at KingdomWorks Studios, I’ve talked with countless mothers who are helplessly watching as their children are struggling.
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While some are teenagers, I’ve also talked to many broken-hearted mothers who are learning of their adult son’s struggles and they worry about broken marriages and the devastating impact that their grandchildren will experience. Many of these women share stories of their husband’s struggle, and wonder what impact it is having on their children.
Men, with only a day separating you from Mother’s Day, decide that this will be the year that you will honor all of the sacrifices that your wife made to give you the title of “dad.”
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Leaving A Legacy
Make today be the day that you start your journey to freedom, proving to her that she still is the most beautiful woman in the world, and that you want to guard and protect your children. Take a step out of the commercialization of the holiday, and invest in a life long gift that will benefit not only your family now but the generations to come.
Sign up at SoulRefiner.com, and begin the journey that will transform your life. Your wife, your kids, your legacy is worth it!
Your greatest contribution may not be something you do, but someone you raise.
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Just remember, if you keep God as your pilot on this journey, you’ll be sure to reach your destination. You may be battered and bruised as you cross the finish line, but you’ll be able to look back and see how far you’ve come and I promise you, it will be worth it.
Writing from personal experience and biblical truth to help individuals and families find healing, restore relationships, and discover the redemptive power of God's grace.
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Will my kids be exposed to pornography?
According to the statistics cited in this post, yes. Assuming your children will encounter it at some point is the realistic starting place, not a pessimistic one. What matters is who is standing there when it happens. A dad who has already fought this battle can step in, tell his own story honestly, and guide them by the hand toward victory instead of leaving them alone with it.
How does a dad's porn struggle affect his children?
It rarely stops with him. The post describes a struggle handed down through generations until someone decides it will stop dead in its tracks and have no authority over the children. A father who takes his stand is fighting for something bigger than himself: his marriage, his family, and the legacy that follows him. "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth." (3 John 1:4)
What should a dad do when his child finds porn?
Step in rather than flinch. The post pictures a father who loves his children enough to come alongside them, share his own story, and guide them by the hand onward to victory. That is only possible if he has already begun his own fight. A dad still hiding his struggle cannot lead his kids out of something he is standing in himself.
What do mothers of grown sons struggling with porn worry about?
Their sons' marriages and their grandchildren. The post describes countless conversations with broken-hearted mothers, some watching teenagers struggle and some only now learning what their adult sons are carrying. Their fear is the ripple effect: marriages that break and children in the next generation who grow up with the same damage. Many of these women are carrying a husband's struggle too.
How does a husband start his journey to freedom from porn?
By deciding, today, that this is the year he honours the sacrifices his wife made to give him the title of dad. Practically, the post points men to get started at SoulRefiner.com and begin the process. Expect to come out of it battered and bruised rather than untouched, because the road is real, and keep God as the pilot for the trip.
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