Celia’s story

Kristina Douberly’s story

Long story short, my husband, Lamar's sex addiction in 2015 led to multiple affairs. One of these affairs was with a woman who was still married. When her husband, James Colley discovered this affair, he attempted to kill Lamar by breaking in and shooting him. Lamar barely escaped, but James stayed back and killed his wife and best friend. We just returned from Florida where my husband had to testify to these murders and the attempted murder on his life and one other survivor. James was just found guilty of two counts of first degree murder, two attempts of first degree murder and a handful of other charges. This week a case will be made for James to receive the death penalty...one of the last for the state of Florida. God worked miracles on both my husband and myself these past three years since the shootings and murders. We have moved to Wisconsin where we have started a recovery program for couples whom have been affected by porn and infidelity. My husband meets with the men during these sessions and I work separately with the women. Then we all meet together for the second half of the evening. We are witnessing incredible miracles from God in the most broken of broken couples. We are not only seeing men being set free from their addictions, but we are seeing women being challenged and successfully demonstrating Christ-like love, mercy and forgiveness as new marriages are created. We call our ministry Chapter 2. Our dream in the future is to plant this recovery ministry all over the U.S. The past 3 years I have worked with many broken women. I have found some of the most incredible tools during this journey which have provided healing for them, including the Conquer Series. I am thrilled to hear a series is being made just for them. I would love to share what I have learned along the way. I also imagine once the series is released, you will need people standing by to provide a community of support for these women. If you need any assistance in regards to establishing some kind "next step" programs for them, I have many ideas.In closing, I want to thank you for creating such an amazing ministry. Much of our healing came from the Conquer Series videos and we owe you our deepest gratitude. Our marriage didn't just barely survive the storm... it thrived on the other side. Even now, while the media portrays my husband as an adulterer, we can find peace in the truth of God's healing, forgiveness and mercy. Our mess became God's message and we are honored to share our story that now belongs to Him.

Anonymous’s story

I am a Pastor’s wife and mother of 4 children. Over the years, I have had the opportunity in joining my husband while doing marriage counseling. When the Lord moved us to NC, I no longer had the thought of, “I wonder if anyone in our church struggles with pornography”. Instead, my thinking was, “I wonder how many men are struggling ... and who are they”. As my husband began working with one young married couple my heart was truly broken for this couple. Their story was devastating but yet, I honestly struggled with loving this man. I didn’t understand why he didn’t just STOP looking at the garbage. I was tired of my husband getting texts / phone calls from this guy admitting that he had “fallen -- AGAIN”. Around this time I received an email from the AFA recommending the Conquer Series to help stop pornography addiction. I showed my husband but nothing was really said about it. I decided to keep the email in my inbox for a while. Months later, my husband received yet another text from the young man he was working with. He had fallen after 6 months of being clean. I again showed my husband the email and asked if he would prayerfully consider purchasing the series. He told me to go ahead and order it. Once it arrived, the two of us would watch the DVDs at night after our children had gone to bed. After watching several, my husband approached the young man from our church and told him about the program and asked him if he would be interested. Was he ever! They began meeting once a week. After watching the sessions where they explained exactly what happens to the brain after watching porn, my eyes were truly opened. These men could not just make a ecision to “stop” and then be done. They truly had to rewire their thinking / brains through the help of the Holy Spirit. It was then that I realized I could... and SHOULD love these men who were struggling. I told my husband how the series was helping me and that I felt that he should consider bringing the men’s wives in with them for the series explaining the brain effects of porn. He took my advice and it was helpful to this couple. My husband is beginning this series with yet another young man this week. We continue to pray that God will bring to light the men who need / want help and that He will allow us to walk this journey with them. I whole heatedly recommend these series to the women as well. My husband also plans to use these DVDs as a one on one Bible Study with our boys. If they can see the devastation BEFORE they are exposed and gripped by the garbage, we will see victory in their lives as well. Thank you for your ministry!

Karon Ruiz’s story

We are in our retirement years, raised four children and are the grandparents of four, we own our own business, ready to travel, and have been married for 35 years. Our last 2 1/2 years of marriage has been tested with a fiery trial brought on by my husband's choices. A legal pornography problem hidden for many years drifted into the illegal type. My husband was caught, sheriff's pounded on our door along with Homeland Security. Our lives broken, devastated and seemingly irreparable. But Jesus had other plans which meant no prison time, a hard probation period with much humiliation. Fortunately, my husband never shared anything, the outcome would have been much, much worse. Husband would have had his heart ripped out had the judge disallowed him seeing his grandchildren. That did not happen, we are blessed. But since we are still in the probational phase with many twists and turns, harsh treatment drenched with a total disregard for the offender, blanketed in shame, etc., I am unable to share details, at least for now. Someday, if we are brave enough, we hope to share our story. Husband has not viewed any porn since December of 2014 because of this shock and awe event that came to his doorstep. Our pastor told us that he probably was so traumatized, it shock the behavior out of him. He has NO DESIRE. This has brought him into a deep relationship with Christ. One good thing is that he brought your video series to not only our church, but another church as well. VERY GOOD SERIES. I hope more men will share the hideousness of CP, something they think they may be doing in secret, has the power to destroy their lives completely. They could lose everything. I don't think young people (with the easy access on their phones) understand, what sharing one image will do. Husband sees other young people in his court-mandated SO class who passed images to one another of teenage girls. The are just kids in their early twenties. They are on a lifetime registration sex offender list for sharing ONE IMAGE. It is interesting to me that the government warns the public about the dangers of BUZZ DRIVING and how you would get a DUI that could ruin your life. Seems they should warn, especially young people, the dangers of sharing images on their phone and how that could ruin their lives. Jeremy, I love listening to you father's show as well. I found out about the video series from TruNews. Thanks for listening. Received 10/29/2018 Thank you for your kindness; it means so much, thank you. He is doing well. We are in the last stages of this nightmare and our lawyer is attempting to have his record expunged. We’ve written and asked for a governor pardon from Governor Brown who is leaving office in January. We hear he looks at cases like ours with no prior criminal history and will sometimes offer a pardon which would mean my husband’s name would be remove from the sex offender list. (Megan’s list) He prays every day that God will grant him this final miracle in this case but at the same time he believes that God’s way will be what is best for him. We’ve seen some wonderful miracles along the way, one is that he is not a published offender on the list so no one but law enforcement will see his name. That is huge since we are in business in Fresno and my husband has many, many clients. Has had this business for over 40 years. With that said, my husband believes this is what it took to remove his desires for porn. He feels completely delivered from this and has not viewed anything (legal or otherwise) for four years. I guess you could say he had the literal HELL shaken out of him. He loves Jesus and his walk with God has totally transformed due to this trial. A side benefit for me is that my eyes were opened to the reality of sex trafficking in our country. I had no idea this went on and that children were being abused this way. I thought this stuff only happened in third world countries. It wasn’t even on my register. My heart bleeds for these kids but I am hopeful now. The current DOJ is being very aggressive and rescuing these children and prosecuting their abusers. So far since Trump took office, 4000 sex traffickers have been arrested; at least this is what I read somewhere. I am not talking about just the low-hanging fruit, men who stumbled into child porn like my husband, but the people who are trafficking and abusing children and young women. I believe Jeff Sessions is on the war path in this regard. My husband and I will eventually write his story, since I am an author of a book about redemption. At the time of our police raid, my book was about 50% complete. I was so traumatized, I could not write for six months. When I finally resumed my story, it changed. It was easier to write about my main character, a broken man with a drug addiction. Utter brokenness flooded into my own home and I had to face it. That reality made its way into my story. My writing became a way to flesh out my feelings within my character’s lives. So a book will come, I hope, but not until he gets his miracle. Then we will write it, to help other men not to make the same horrendous mistake. Looking at this stuff will ruin your life; and trust me, the government is watching. You will never be the same if you are caught; as this type of thing marks you like a Scarlet Letter sewn into the fabric of your being. Blessings, Karon Ruiz Author of Grace in the Shadows Website: