Forbidden Discussions: What Children Want To Know

It’s often said that children, especially young children, have no filter. They will quickly open up and talk about things without hesitating about whether it’s appropriate or not. Such was the situation that two Sunday School teachers recently found themselves in. Both instruct children, some as young as pre-kindergarten. And both found themselves surprisingly being questioned about sexual terminology – such as porn.

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They tried to avoid the question in an attempt to get the group back on track. They felt that it was the parents’ job to have these discussions. But then a realization crept into their minds – parents are having the conversations, just not with their children.

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The kids, who were persistent, not giving up until they received an answer, had heard such terms within their home. And for whatever reason, the questions manifested that morning. Thankfully, being led by the Holy Spirit, a Biblical answer was able to be provided in terms that satisfied the children. All that was left to do now was pray that the children would take the Godly perspective with them as they grow and mature.

Curiosity

Have you ever heard the term, “Curiosity killed the cat”? Simply put, it’s a phrase used to remind people that their curiosity could lead them to places that they probably shouldn’t go. It’s a warning that danger could loom ahead and that consequences may be imminent as a result of pursuing information. Sadly, this is becoming true in the lives of children – especially in regard to sexuality.

Curiosity is one of the driving forces in teens seeking out porn. They may have heard their friends talking about it, and they worry that their social status will suffer if they cannot contribute to future conversations. Others believe that it will help them be better prepared for future intimate relationships. What they don’t realize is that it doesn’t prepare them for anything more than disappointment and dissatisfaction. Focus on the Family reports,

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“Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, is released in response to relationship and when a person is having a sexual experience. When teens view pornography they bond with an illusion, not a person.”

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The Danger Of Illusion

In the world of porn, everything is fantasy, creating a distorted view of reality. Countless stories have emerged of individuals being alerted to videos being posted of them, some of which were made while they were in captivity to a human trafficker. These videos are not consensual. They are sickening and abusive in nature.

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God made us to be curious and we need to be ready to answer questions produced by these inquisitive minds. Teens gravitating towards porn are not learning what true, unadulterated love between a husband and wife should look like.

They are instead learning that people, both male and female, are merely objects intended for selfish gain. Furthermore, teenage consumers of pornography are receiving the message that it’s okay to have multiple partners. As they pursue these passions in the flesh, they are opening themselves up to increased risks of sexually-transmitted diseases and a host of other long-term issues.

A pastor who oversees premarital counseling in Pennsylvania once said, “Do you know how to spell marriage? It’s spelled W-O-R-K.” We cannot expect teens to get the message that you can toss something aside when it fails to please you, and then hope that they will have happy, healthy, lifelong marriages in the future.